Tiranga Times

The decision to go down the route of using provided sperm, eggs or embryos is not a simple one. So before you make that final decision, talk to other individuals that have used this way, and to a counselor as well as your partner. This is a much more involved method to create a baby and it is harder going than standard infertility treatment and can have far reaching effects on your partner and other members of your relatives. You will need to be understanding of your own and your partner’s emotions and to give yourselves time to think everything through, so don’t rush into treatment, only go ahead when you feel ready.

You may have been considering using provided sperm, eggs or embryos because other infertility treatment has previously, or is likely to be, unsuccessful. Using other fertility interventions would be the foremost course of action as you would wish there to be a Hereditary link and of course this will not be the case with a child conceived using provided sperm, eggs or embryos. Often if you talk about it with just the two of you, the discussion ends up going round in circles because you will both handle the state of affairs differently. Try to get as much help as possible from your close relatives, friends or a counselor you feel you can trust.

Genetic or blood links do not necessarily make for a happy loving family environment as many parents who used donated sperm, eggs or embryos can prove. For many parents who had children from provided sperm, eggs or fertilized eggs, the troubles they have had to master to have the son or daughter just increases the joy for them all the more.

One of the key matters to think about is how you will inform your child about the manner in which they were conceived. It would be best for your son or daughter if you both felt easy speaking about this from a very early stage. It is important that your son or daughter learns about their origins from you, and not from other people, so it is worth thinking about when it would be most helpful to introduce them to the idea, possibly when they are asking points about where babies come from, for example. Once they reach an age where they understand more it would be worth explaining the state of affairs in greater detail. As they grow older, they will start to understand the implications, but if donation has been part of the family story for as long as they can remember this shouldn’t be a problem. Of course, some people will want to more about their origins while others will not actually show that much concern.

To conclude, how your son or daughter will feel about this is directly related to how you go about explaining the situation and when, because there is no cause why they ought to feel any different from a child born as a result of regular conception.